Inside Priscilla Muhiu’s PowerPoint structured life

She comes blowing through the restaurant at 9 am like a hurricane. To match her ebullient manner is her screaming pink t-shirt, carrying her meal box that she dumps at the foot of her chair; she’s talking and freeing herself of her unzipped handbag, placed on the next table, tipped on its side like a doomed ship, it’s mouth open as if agape at the speed and energy of everything going on around it. As the voice recorder goes on, she takes to the interview like a duck to water.

She’s well-intentioned, good-natured, an open book, quick to laugh, her emotions climbing up to her face and spilling all over her, causing a wonderful mess of introspection and honesty. At some point, she grabs her laptop and opens her life’s plan laid out on a PowerPoint presentation, marked by years and tracked diligently: be a serial entrepreneur, a director, own two homes, a ranch, run a successful organisation, lead by empathy, impact 3 million people positively, mentorship, always be an empathetic human being, have three children by 36…

You can tell by now that Priscilla Muhiu, Country Director of MYDAWA, the online pharmacy, is uncanny and infectious. Her career—media Director at Newturn Ltd, Head of Business Development and Marketing at OLX Group, and General Manager at Glovo—has not been a journey of happenstance. There have been bumps and scars, plans that got off the rails. “But I’m here, and we continue forging ahead, we amend and accommodate, and we keep trying.”

Do you even remember the original question? Haha. It’s not what you have been answering for the past 10 minutes…not that I mind that well-delivered background…

[Laughs loudly] Oh no? Wait, I thought you asked me about my career up to this moment at my MYDAWA?

No, I asked if you have gleaned any interesting insights about Kenyans and their medicine consumption habits…

Oh. (Laughs). I heard my own things. [Dramatic deep breath] Well… let’s try this again. First, I’ve learned that 70 percent of our medication is imported; God knows from where. There are many counterfeit or expired drugs sold to unsuspecting people. I remember when I bought Augmentin [antibiotic drug], and when I peeled off the expiry date label, underneath was another label with the actual expiry date. If a drug is being sold at a great discount, ask yourself why. We also see drugs that don’t have 100 percent efficacy. 

Lastly, self-medication is a big problem in Kenya. You get joint pains, you get yourself Fansidar [used to treat malaria]. I’m a culprit, and because of that, I lost my gallbladder. That was in 2021. I used to ignore this pain in my tummy and instead took painkillers. I’d get relief until the next time it came back. This went on for five months until the pain was too much. I remember leaving the office in the morning, telling my colleagues, ‘Let me see a doctor; see you guys for the 3 pm meeting.’ I left the hospital the following week. [Laughs]. They found that my gallbladder was rotten and had to remove it.

How is life without a gallbladder?

[Laughs] It’s not as bad as it sounds. I just avoid fatty foods and alcohol. My body doesn’t digest fatty foods, so I get a runny stomach when I eat them. When I have one glass of an alcoholic drink, I immediately feel dizzy. So I just stopped. It’s been two years without alcohol.

Has your life changed dramatically from not drinking?

The quality of it, for sure. I no longer have hangovers. I used to get bad ones. I don’t know if you know this, but I’m a dancer; dancing kind of helps me keep my mind busy and focused on my life. Did I tell you that I have a work plan for my life? Can I show you?

Oh sure.

[Flips her laptop.] I must show you how I live my life from this PowerPoint presentation. [Grabs my phone] Sorry, that’s your phone. Where is my phone? Is it still recording? If you are wondering what that is, that’s my food. I eat breakfast like a king, then some lunch, then next to nothing for dinner.

You are a very high-energy person.

Oh, you can tell? When I go to the office, I’m that very jubilant colleague, saying hello in the morning to all. I don’t know if you’re familiar with colour energies, but I’m a sunshine yellow, which means I’m flamboyant and bright. I’m also green, I care a lot. I do these tests once every two years. I’m red now because of my job… 

Oh, here, my life plan. [Goes through the PowerPoint]. Here we have my life purpose, vision, roles, and values. I drafted this when I was at OLX in 2015. You see here, my purpose in life and the world is to be remarkable in all my roles and positively impact the people around me and beyond. I don’t want to lose sight of what is important, and I always seek to become the best version of myself. So, anything that doesn’t enable me to be this must go. Yeah. And then my vision, my end state, is to always have to learn. 

I believe I can learn from anyone, so I have a learn-it-all attitude and seek to improve myself continuously in all aspects of my life. Here was my vision of being a mother and wife…the wife part isn’t happening anymore; I left my marriage years ago… So ideally, if you look at my life from this document there are a couple of themes in alignment with my roles. I wanted to be a GM [General Manager] at 35. I became a GM at 37, so that was okay. I wanted to lead and develop a cohesive, high-performing team of professionals. By 35, I was doing that. 

You can see in this graph how I track my progress and review it every few months. These are my comments and recommendations… I’m the firstborn, so I can’t drop the ball. Well, I dropped the marriage ball, affecting my plans to have three children by 36. I’m 41 and have two children; I hope to still have that third child.

Why did you leave your marriage?

Troubles. [Nods, sombrely]. It was not bringing out the best version of me. [Pause] I went through a very difficult time. That’s all I can say; it was not easy. Sometimes, I feel like my self-doubt and low self-esteem came from that. But I’ve worked on myself. I’m surrounded by amazing people. And dancing helps me. I won’t get married again, but I will consider having a partner. If I don’t get a baby in two years, I will adopt.

Why is it important for you to have three children?

That’s the number I wanted. Ever since high school, I have wanted three children, maybe because we are three siblings as well? [Shrugs]

How was your childhood?

It was pretty good. My dad was very tough. The interesting thing, though, is that I used to be super saved when I was in high school. I was one of those Christian Union girls. I’d pray for hours; wake up at five and pray, pray, pray…then campus happened. [Laughs]. But that spirit never leaves you; I’m still spiritual. Be careful; if you ask me to pray for food, I will pray for hours. [Laughs]. 

Anyway, back to my goals here. I try to align them to my theme every day. How I do it is I imagine my funeral. What do I want my family to say during the funeral? I want them to say she was a loving and supportive mother, wife, and sister. So, I do things that enable that. More importantly, I want to impact the lives of three million people. I have mentorship sessions once every six weeks with my team, where we have specific goals. I review my own goals every quarter in an executive meeting with myself. Actually, I should show you something else. This is the long-term one. I have a short-term one…

MYDAWA Kenya Chief Executive Officer Priscilla Muhiu during the interview in Nairobi on April 24, 2024.

Photo credit: Photo | Lucy Wanjiru | Nation Media Group

Why is it important for your life to be this structured?

Because, naturally, I lack structure in my life. If I don’t put structures, my life will quickly spiral into chaos. People who are a Yellow like myself are all over the place, I’m scatterbrained. I can’t focus easily, so I need something to keep me structured. To help with that, every day I identify the song of the day, and I play it over and over again, on repeat, because it keeps me focused.

What’s that song for today?

Today’s song was also yesterday’s song, a jam by Bo-Faya.

I read that before the dancing and all that, you were overweight. What do you remember about that girl?

She was sad. She didn’t like the person she was. She didn’t like this mark on her face [scar below left eye]. She used to look at this mark and cry. So she would cover it with a lot of makeup to hide what it represented. I wanted a perfect face. Now, I don’t cover it; I call it a beauty spot. [Laughs]

How did you get that scar?

[Uncomfortable pause] I just…got it. [Looks away].

What made you feel sadder, your weight or the scar?

You know, I’d sometimes blame my weight for my circumstances. I’d think I was being treated that way because of my weight and that if I improved myself, became a better cook, and kept a cleaner house, I’d be treated better. But it’s never about your weight. [Pause] When you lose weight, you lose it for yourself. I was 90 kgs, now I’m 73. My confidence is up, I feel good physically and mentally. I dance, I eat well. I’m lucky I found dancing; it has helped me a lot. It’s given me a lot of courage.

What makes you anxious now?

My firstborn son he’s autistic. He’s 16, and I worry about him. I think about his future; will I have to live with him forever? Will he ever become independent? Will he ever meet someone who understands him and loves him for who he is because he’s such a wonderful boy? Will he get married and have children? 

He’s very good at smelling scents, and I’m considering taking him to a cooking school. Should I set up a restaurant and set him up for life? I’m trying to teach him life skills right now because, education-wise, it’s been a challenge. My secondborn is eight. I think he has ADHD [Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder] and a bit of autism; he is a very brilliant boy. He was reading before he was two, before he could even walk. Here, let me show you a video of him reading. [Shows video]

It must be quite challenging to be a single mother raising a child with special needs.

Oh yes. But what has really helped me is the support system. When my son was being circumcised, my brother took over the process. I’ve had the same house help for 10 years; she understands him 100 percent. They are such good friends, and that helps a lot. 

Autistic children want consistency, no surprises, the same teachers, and the same environment. They don’t like change. For example, when I was moving out, I had to take a photo and give it to the movers to try and arrange the house the same way as the former house. I even had to look for a house with almost the same layout. 

He’s taught me to be very patient. We underestimate ourselves and our capacity to handle difficult and complex life experiences. I allow myself to feel the pain when I go through difficult moments. Some days, it’s all too much, and I allow myself to have a bad day. I tell everyone around me, ’It’s not my day today, but tomorrow might be my day’. And when something great happens at work, we pop a bottle of champagne and celebrate. You have to remember to celebrate your wins.

Is today your day?

[Sits up straighter] It is! I’m wearing red lipstick and a Christian Dior perfume. That’s how you know. [Laughs]

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Rajiv Raja finds success struggle-free

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Rajiv Raja finds success struggle-free


Bila Shaka Brewery Founder Rajiv Raja during an interview at Sarit Centre in Nairobi on March 20, 2024. PHOTO | BONFACE BOGITA | NMG

A teenage zebra once took a bite of Rajiv Raja’s right calf. This is not odd at all. It’s typically something that would happen to Rajiv. He’s the kind of fellow with a One-Match rule; when starting a campfire, you only have one strike of a match. You waste that match, you spend the night camping in the cold. No fire for you. 

He’s the type that touches trees to feel their energy. He swims in open oceans at midnight. He knows hundreds of birds by their sounds and even more by their sights. He will never resist touching the heads of animals; goats, cows, dogs, sheep, ostriches, camels, and geese. It’s a communion of sorts. He worries about trees, donkeys, and nature. His spirituality is based on a tenet of never harming any living thing. He picked that from his mother. “My parents are the most gentle of people.” 

Talking of parents, his father owned Equator Bottlers Ltd, the bottlers and distributors of Coca-Cola, before selling it off after 40 or so years. Down at Kedong Valley, along the edge of the Great Rift Valley, he runs Bila Shaka Craft Brewery that produces Bila Shaka craft beers using biofuel. He’s its founder and CEO. He also runs Mayers Natural Spring water. “We farm water, young water,” he says under his dark, boyish curly hair, “we don’t pump it; we allow it to come out naturally, like nature intended.” When Rajiv Raja talks about harvesting water, you will want a cold beer. 

What have you learned from your old man?

Humility. He is the most unassuming man. He believes in the value of working with one’s hands. When I was growing up, he would fix machines in the plant when they broke down. He’s very practical and pragmatic and never does anything for the show. He’s also very introverted and likes his corner. 

What did you want for yourself when you were young?

I can’t think of anything specific, but I remember being very good at mathematics. Maths is my passion. Even now, I’ll mess around with statistics. If one of my cousins has a statistics question on a level that he can’t figure out and he sends it over, I won’t sleep until I crack it. It doesn’t matter that I’ve got to work the next day; I’ll be there until three in the morning. And if I get the answer wrong, I’ll be very restless. 

Unsurprisingly, I ended up studying mechanical and aeronautical engineering. When you understand chemistry and physics, you understand the elements. So, when you talk about aeronautics, you’re talking about fluid dynamics, how water moves, how air moves around an object, and how to generate energy from a moving turbine.

[Pauses] Right. I think what has always defined me is the love of nature. If I walk somewhere and see a tree, I will not resist the urge to touch it. I touch every animal I run into, you know, touch its head.

Where did that come from? Did you grow up with trees and animals? 

My mom. Both my parents are very gentle people. Growing up, they always believed in nonviolence against all creatures. My mom, though, takes it to the next extreme. Nonviolence for her is not abusing anyone verbally or having bad thoughts about them. I appreciate this version of gentleness in life. She is the type to blow away an insect [instead of squashing it]. 

Did you grow up with pets?

I didn’t have pets, but I have a lot of pets now. We’ve got five dogs on the farm and nearly 50 donkeys rescued by the Kenya Society for the Protection & Care of Animals. We offered to take them in and care for them when locals in Naivasha were slaughtering them. When they are rescued they are mostly damaged and injured and we try to rehabilitate them and give them a safe place. 

What has nature taught you about yourself?

[Pause] Man, this is a deep question. I thought you were going to ask me about beer and water. [Pause] I only believe in the elements of nature. Humanity can make up its rules and regulations, but ultimately, we are reduced to the fundamental nature of earth, wind, and fire. That’s what we’re created from. You can be religious or liberated, but ultimately you return to nature.

That’s why I’m attracted to the forest and the water that comes from the ground and into this pond, 60 metres of fresh water and swimming in that pond at midnight, and you can hear the hyenas in the background, which is pretty mesmerising. You can’t blame nature for anything, can you? It’s there. It doesn’t care about you. You’re at his mercy. It doesn’t owe anything to you.

Is your personality closer to fire or water? 

I’m fire, that’s why I love water. I can go swimming in the sea at night, right towards the reef, until fear sets in. If I find fresh water, however cold, I’ll swim in it. I think it’s because I have a fiery personality that needs to be calmed and tamed by water. Deep down, I think I’m a pyromaniac; give me a chance to start a fire and sit by it. I’ll start a fire.

You must camp a lot.

Yeah, a lot. Once every two months, I go with my wife and son to Tsavo East or the Aberdares. I like to sit by the fire. Generally, I have a one-matchstick rule while camping: You have to start a fire with one matchstick. If you don’t, then you just have to sit there and pay the price. However, now I can’t stick to the rule because my son is with us.[Chuckles] He’s only four years old. 

What do you want your son to learn when you take him for camping?

To respect and love nature. Whether he’ll be good at maths or music, I don’t mind; this is secondary to me. Fundamentally, I think it’s just a love of nature, to go anywhere in the world and just sit by a tree, find a park and find peace there and – [turns to look – lovingly – at a noisy bird that’s suddenly perched on the next table]… that’s a Bulbul, they like to chant like that in the morning. 

When we travel with my son and wife, and we happen on, say, a Rosy-throated Longclaw, I’m happy when my son says, pointing, ‘Papa. rosy- throated..” He picks this from us. I hope he learns about fear. When we camp near a river in the Tsavo and hippos come grazing near our tent, and he’s scared, I tell him that being brave is not the absence of fear, that it’s okay to be scared, and that I’m afraid too. But that bravery is overcoming fear. I hope he remembers that one day when he is under attack by life’s forces.

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Bila Shaka Brewery Founder Rajiv Raja during an interview at Sarit Centre in Nairobi on March 20, 2024. PHOTO | BONFACE BOGITA | NMG

You mentioned at the beginning something about when you see a tree, you just touch it. What’s that about?

I always feel like a tree is an old friend you can no longer communicate with. I grew up in North London until I left in 2002. Twenty years ago, there was a massive storm that knocked down this huge oak that, even when I was there, was still disintegrating on its bark. Whenever I go back with my son, we touch it. People have scratched all manner of writings on it now – I was here, remember me -but when I stand there and touch it, I still feel like we have a connection. Maybe it’s still alive, maybe it’s dead, and most likely, it doesn’t have any idea who I am, but I think it’s a connection to the past. 

Rather than promises of the afterlife, I believe I’ll return to nature. At the end of the day, you’ll become part of earth, fire, and water again. So, in a way, it’s almost just like a connection to that. [Sighs, sips coffee] This interview has turned into a philosophy discussion, exactly what I didn’t imagine it would be. 

Life is about truth and meaning, isn’t it? What are you most afraid of now?

Being a father blew everything in the wind. Anything that I was fearful of before failed in comparison to anything harming or coming in the way of our four-year-old, innocent, and almost defenceless being. Every parent throughout history, including nonhumans, has that fear. 

Has that changed the person you are significantly? 

Yeah, you start thinking of sacrifice. It’s always been about me, me, me, but now there is a child who didn’t ask to be born, and I am fully responsible for him. That has a significant impact on how I navigate life. 

What’s your struggle now as a 45-year-old middle-aged man? 

Apart from my back pain? I tend to pick random fights that I really shouldn’t be worrying about; a neighbour’s quarry that’s affecting the environment down at the farm. How do I replant this acacia tree without killing it? My farm workers think I’m crazy. They often say, ‘We have all these thousands and thousands of trees, why are you going nuts over this one tree? Cut it down and plant another one,’ they are quick to urge me. But I don’t want to cut a tree and disrupt its life. 

I also worry about yeast and fermentation…[Pause] Look, I could talk about things that revolve around nature, but I will sound like a broken record or a crazed preacher if I haven’t already. I realise that compared to many people, I don’t have struggles apart from my back pain. 

Many people have started businesses with nothing and created something. I didn’t. I grew up fortunate. I’m not self-made; I’m made by my parents. I was lucky enough to be born with that. I have great respect for people who built themselves from nothing. Those people can talk of struggles, but I shouldn’t. My struggles are self-inflicted and those don’t count. 

What do you find to be holding you back at this point? 

You should have asked me 20 years ago, now nothing. I don’t have a course that I’m following. I’m doing stuff. I started a brewery in Mai Mahiu three years ago. I never expected to have this restaurant [at Sarit Centre’s rooftop]. We bottle natural, young spring water. I don’t think anything’s holding me back because I don’t have a destination, which is actually most probably more frustrating because people who have a singular target have something to drive for, not me. 

You must be a vegetarian… 

Yes, I am. I grew up veggie and it wasn’t a religious thing. It was my mom’s thing to not harm living things. She never told me not to eat meat and then I rebelled later. I have friends who grew up like that but later rebelled because they were told that meat is bad.

Like I said, I’m not a preacher but if I find a cow, I will touch its head. If I find any animal; a goat, or sheep, I will touch its head. Once, during one of our trips out in game parks with my wife and son, I tried to save a teenage zebra that was trapped in barbed wire and he bit me on my calf, and tried to rip my leg off. I managed to save him but he ripped my jeans all the way to my boxers. That day, for some reason, I was wearing orange boxer shorts with little rabbits on them. 

The last question, I’m afraid, might be a bit philosophical. What’s the value of a man? 

A man, as in masculine male or?

Yes, a man like you, me, a man. Male. 

I don’t think there is any value to a man. Value for a man is a self-inflicted value. You grow up with an ego and you use that to create value. But really, if you ask the fundamental value of a man, is it to take care of your offspring, which is also self-inflicted? Most of these values we go seeking them. Society in itself is full of ideals and values that are also created by itself. 

These are all difficult questions and ideas and I’m sorry I’ve gone on and on with some and bored you but I honestly thought you would ask me about the technical sides of enzymes and brewing. [Pause] Value of man…can I just say that If pushed for an answer the value of a man is the ability to make another person laugh? To bring laughter to a child or a full-grown man without regrets is a unique value. You can’t go to school to learn to be funny and if you do, you were never funny in the first place. That’s value. Money doesn’t bring a smile to somebody’s face, at least not a pure smile. A good joke, though…

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Why retirement is not an option for Bob Karina

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Why retirement is not an option for Bob Karina


Faida Investment Bank Chairman Bob Karina during the interview at his office in Nairobi County on January 31, 2024. PHOTO | DENNIS ONSONGO | NMG

Bob Karina is 71 years old but could easily pass for 58. However, you don’t look that much younger for no reason; he has played squash for half his life. [We forgot to inquire about the general state of his knees].

He frequently runs – 10 kilometres, 20 kilometres. He plays golf and swims whenever he can. He dabbled in tennis a bit. He’s tall and athletic, with a head that looks like it caught a light snow shower and a salt-peppered beard that looks itchy.

He hates anything with collars, so he often dresses like Narendra Modi [Indian Prime Minister].

You can’t tell he was a photographer once until you look at his hands, which look like an artist’s fingers. It’s these hands that he used to build Faida Investment bank, which started as a brokerage firm back in yore.

He’s an accomplished stockbroker and research analyst who served as Chairman of Nairobi Securities Exchange, director of Kenya Private Sector Alliance, and Kenya National Chamber of Commerce. Frequently, he hops into a plane and heads west, to Rwanda, where he’s the Chairman of the Rwanda Stock Exchange.

When you first became a grandfather, did you think, Oh my God, I’m a grandfather?

That happened 14 years ago. I must have been 57. My son was studying in London, and he had just married. My wife was there during the delivery, and I joined them later. It was very exciting to see this boy named after me because our culture has a specific naming system.

I have nine grandchildren who are always at my place over the weekend. Together with their six parents, my wife and I, we are a family of 17, which is a special number.

My father had four wives, and we were 17 siblings. I got married on December 17. Rina, my first daughter, was born on February 17. My father passed away on February 17. The brokerage number that we got when we were licensed was B 17. Many things happen on the 17th. So it’s a special number, and I like it.

How was it growing up in a polygamous home with 16 siblings?

Very tough. My dad was not wealthy. He was making do with small-scale farming in Murang’a.

First, food was never enough. I never ate until I was full; that’s how bad it was. But my dad had his special food, which we’d see as it was being taken to him as we were seated. We were just too many mouths. I looked forward to Christmas to eat well.

Secondly, we never slept. We were all squeezed in like two rooms, sleeping on the floor and sacks and sharing the same torn blanket. After Form 4, I lived with my uncle in Kaloleni, where we would sleep nine children in a 10 by 10 room, smaller than my office.

My dad hustled a lot. He started his photographic studio in Murang’a in 1952 after working for an Indian in a studio in Nairobi. I first laid my hand on a camera when I was seven, working in my dad’s studio. He then opened another studio here in Nairobi, but I never stayed there long to avoid my siblings thinking I was benefiting from it. I had to move on to let others come in.

When did things start happening for you?

I came to Nairobi and started working at the Central Bureau of Statistics, where we sat on an open floor that had a gentleman whose desk was facing us. One day, I asked my deskmate how one ends up seated there, and he said one had to study at an institute called the East African Statistical Programme Centre in Tanzania, and if one passed the examination, one would come and be the boss there. So I enrolled with six other Kenyans, passed with distinction, returned, and was promoted three grades up.

I became a statistical assistant and then an officer in charge of Nairobi, Kiambu, and Machakos. Later, I became a field coordinator. The government then sponsored me to study several courses, starting with statistics at the University of Sussex’s Institute of Development Studies.

After my statistics studies, I developed an interest in computer work. The government flew me to the US to study computer data systems under the US Bureau of the Census, then to Hong Kong and the University of Singapore to study systems analysis. I was moved from the Ministry of Finance to the Office of the President, where I rose to become the chief systems analyst and head of microcomputers at the Directorate of Personnel Management.

Then, there was a push to increase the number of players in the stock market because, in 1994, there were only six stockbrokers. In 1995, we got a licence to open our brokerage firm, Faida Securities. One of the conditions of running a stock brokerage was that the chief executive had to be there 100 percent. So, I had to resign from the civil service to get into this stock market, which I would say is deep.

Faida Securities became Faida Investment Bank. We also established a stock brokerage in Rwanda and became a director of the Nairobi Securities Exchange and vice chairman of the Rwanda Stock Exchange. In 2020, I became the chairman till date.

How did growing up lacking food affect your relationship with food as an adult?

Good question. The biggest impact is that I became a lover of chapatis because they were so scarce, only for special occasions. Nowadays, when I go to a party, and chapatis are not served, I feel like the hosts were not expecting us to come. Any spread of food should have at least chapati. Another thing it’s done is that I resolved that my children would never be hungry.

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Faida Investment Bank Chairman Bob Karina during the interview at his office in Nairobi County on January 31, 2024. PHOTO | DENNIS ONSONGO | NMG

Is there anything you find yourself doing now that stems from growing up lacking?

The impact of coming from a background like that is that you want the things you couldn’t have, like clothing. When I came to Nairobi at 19 years old, I was determined not to look like I was from the village. I wanted to look smart, to get clothes that fit me. I made friends with mitumba traders at Burma Market, who would call me first when new stock arrived. When I wore these clothes to the disco, nobody would tell they were mitumba; I stood out. Clothes tend to cover a lot and not just our bodies.

I read somewhere that people who grew up sleeping on mats buy big extravagant beds in adulthood. You can break into someone’s house and, from his bedroom, tell what kind of childhood they had by the size of their bed. How big is your bed?

[Laughs] Is that so? My bed is standard size. Anything beyond 6×6 is a big bed.

Who did you want to become when you were growing up in Murang’a?

I wanted to be a mechanic because my uncle was a mechanic. I used to be fascinated by how he would pull apart an engine into pieces and then put it back together, and the car returned to the road. I became a statistician by pure luck.

You have had a very gradual ascent in life, achieving a lot. What’s the one thing you feel like has eluded you?

Many of my good friends have made a lot of money in property development. I tried it, but it never happened because I didn’t put enough effort into it as they did. It’s foolhardy to expect things to happen if you don’t put effort into them. So, yes, real estate was something that I missed.

Do you ever feel any regret that you never gave photography a chance?

Yes, I do because it was something my father believed in, and it’s what paid our school fees. I used to run the studio in Nairobi. Before going to the civil service work, I would go to the studio to ensure everything was running well. I would also pass by after work. I was pretty good at photography, but when some of my siblings saw me buying a car and thought maybe I was getting money from the studio, I pulled out and left it for them.

How old are you now?

I’ll be 72 in June.

Why do you still come to work early at 71? Why do you still come to work at all?

I am 71, but I don’t feel old. Some of my friends have retired, but I still don’t understand that life. I have never thought about not coming to work. I’m not the kind to do nothing, even on a Saturday or Sunday when my wife tells me no, why don’t we just stay home? I’d rather pick her up and go for a ride to a mall or visit someone.

You cannot find me somewhere on my own, just seated. I would get sick. I don’t have a reporting time. I come here [office] early in the morning because I waste a lot of time on the road if I leave home late. I’d rather come early and leave by 2pm, which I usually do. And I’m a very impatient driver. Sometimes, I’m one of those people caught by traffic police overlapping. After work, I go to the golf club or the gym, but I can’t stay at home. Maybe if I was sick. God has been good to me, probably because of keeping fit. I rarely get colds or anything serious.

How’s your fitness regime been like?

I have played many games. I even played championship squash. I’ve got trophies in the house. I played squash for 35 years. I was the captain of the Parkland Sports Club squash team. I tried a bit of tennis but then found the timing was so limited because, after work, you only have five to 6:30pm. With squash, you can play even at midnight. I’ve run for many years. I can do 20km easy. I do 10km in an hour and 10 minutes now. I used to do it in under an hour. I do weights and the bicycle. God has been good.

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Rose Mwebaza: ‘God’s gift’ at Unep leadership

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Rose Mwebaza: ‘God’s gift’ at Unep leadership


Dr Rose Mwebaza is the Unep’s Regional Director and Representative in Africa. PHOTO | POOL

Dr Rose Mwebaza walks a tightrope. As Unep’s Regional Director and Africa Representative, she oversees 54 countries, positioning the continent globally in all geopolitical conversations. She’s no stranger in deeply carpeted rooms with heads of state and ministers discussing science and the environment and negotiating policies.

A high achiever, Dr Mwebaza has always known anything but being at the top; she is the top student in her country in high school, the first draft law student in her year at Makerere University and the best law student to graduate in her class.

She somehow discovered to turn academia into something she did, a verb: Master’s Degree, International Comparative Law, University of Florida, PhD in Environment and Natural Resources Governance from Macquarie University, Australia, professor of law and dean at Makerere University at only 29.

Often, she is the only black person and the only woman in rooms owned by men. “It takes a lot of self-mastery and self-awareness to occupy those spaces, to sit in them and bring your best self every day.” She has done all these while raising a daughter by going everywhere with her. A unique brand of motherhood-on-the-move.

I’m always fascinated by the journey more than the destination, you know? So, I’d like to know how you ended up here, running important things at the UN. What did it take?

It’s an interesting question. I set out on a journey without knowing the destination but was open to the possibilities.

When I was in law school, I emerged at the top of my class, and usually, law firms would come and choose the best students and turn them into great practising lawyers who became powerful, wealthy advocates. I wasn’t interested in that.

I wanted to support communities that didn’t have money to pay for proper legal services. So, I turned down every offer to join a law firm and decided to teach because teaching offered the flexibility to do pro-bono work. I taught at Makerere University.

By 29, I was a dean and a professor of law. During that time, I was also doing pro bono volunteer work, working on land and property rights for people who couldn’t afford legal services. I built a network, initially across East Africa and then globally. We set up the Uganda Land Alliance, which encompassed all organisations that wanted to work on land issues to promote and organise our justice systems relating to land.

Then, we set up the Kenya Land Alliance and the Zambia Land Alliance. It grew into a pan-African organisation. I understood that land was not just property; it defined people’s cultures and systems of organisations so that, for instance, pastoralist communities didn’t move around aimlessly.

Theirs is an organised structure of mobility which is organised that way for a reason. I felt this was not captured in the Western laws designed for our countries. This work made me understand that it’s about people’s ecosystems, and that’s how I got into the environment sector. How do we protect the environment in which these communities live?

What drew you to the law, anyway? With your brains, you could have done anything with your life.

I was the best [academically performing] student in Uganda, from high school to university. I was also the number one draft for law school and the best leaving the school. I went to law school simply because I was the best student in the country.

What are the disadvantages of being tops all the time?

People always expect you to succeed. I was a well-behaved child who also performed well in school. I was either a head girl or a prefect. At home, I was raising my siblings. This raised a lot of expectations. I grew up before my time. I don’t think I was ever carefree and free-spirited like a child. I was always responsible. This can be a burden because then you’re the carer,  the nurturer, the one who makes sure everything and everyone is okay, but reflecting now, as an adult, people often don’t think that the carer, the nurturer, the one who gives, also needs caring and nurturing. So, it can be draining in many ways.

How was your childhood?

It was a great childhood. My parents couldn’t have children for 20 years. They were married on August 28, 1954, and my mother had nine miscarriages over the two decades before getting us: my elder brother, myself, and my younger sister. Because of this, we were loved and valued, and we felt it. Our parents always reminded us. My name in Baganda means thank you.

We grew up knowing that we were special children, gifts from God. My mother was big on education, never missed a visiting day, and knew all my friends and their parents and all my teachers. And my father, at a time when men loved from a distance, was a very affectionate, hands-on father. He could have taken on other wives and had other children, but he stuck with my mom.

We had this conversation with her [mom], and I thought, my God, imagine the shame you must have had to deal with, the stigma of being childless. This immense love of being supported built my confidence and conviction that I needed to do something with my life.

On his deathbed, my father said, “I’m so proud of you, my child. I’m so glad I’ve lived to see you grow up and all that.” So, my father’s love, encouragement, and my mother’s love and support were the fuel that brought me here.

What have you ever failed at remarkably?

(Pause) I don’t know if I want to talk about it. (Pause). I had never put a foot wrong; great student, great daughter, the perfect child in every way. So when my marriage came crashing down….that, for me, was my greatest failure because my parents had been married for 54 years, and I had always assumed my life would be just like theirs. That I would have this great family life.

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Dr Rose Mwebaza is the Unep’s Regional Director and Representative in Africa. PHOTO | POOL

I thought I had disappointed my parents when my marriage ended because now I was not the perfect child they wanted me to be. Fortunately, my father helped me through this. He said, “You don’t understand, my child. It’s you. I waited for you. What else matters?” I said, “But I thought I’d just be like you and mom and have a great life.” He said, “No, I don’t want you to be like me and your mom. I just want you to be.” That made me let go of that sense of failure.

How did that change you, this sense of failure?

For the first time in my life, it affected my confidence. As a smart person, I should have known better. So, I questioned myself and my sense of judgement. But eventually, it also made me more intentional because, in many ways, I had grown up with a silver spoon, and my life had, in retrospect, so nicely come together up to that point. So, it was probably good to have something to jolt me.

Ten years. Are you planning on trying again?

I have no idea. I just live my life. I have a daughter to think of now. She’s like me; she grew up smart and responsible. She was like a young adult. I was always sad that she didn’t have the constant father that I had because, for me, my father was pivotal.

Because your daughter is almost like, if you are to tell her one mistake to avoid, what would that be?

That it’s okay to fail and make a mistake; it doesn’t make you any less, doesn’t diminish you. It’s part of the journey of life. It’s the human condition. At some point, we all know pain and loss. I told her it was okay because I wasn’t prepared for that.

What are you most afraid of doing now, in this season of your life?

I’m very intentional and specific about what I want to do this season, whether it’s work, family, or friends. I am learning to be okay with not pleasing everybody because I have a bit of people-pleasing in me due to how I was raised. I’m learning that it’s okay to say no, that it’s okay; you don’t have to be everything for everyone all the time.

What percentage would you say your work takes in your life?

Until the summer of last year, my life was my daughter and my work. I long decided I didn’t want anyone else to raise my child. I wanted to do it alone. Everyone who knows me knows my child because I went everywhere with her until she grew up and left the house. She’s 18 now, at university.

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Dr Rose Mwebaza is the Unep’s Regional Director and Representative in Africa. PHOTO | POOL

Because of the high demands on my time, I always had my daughter and travelled with her to my office and everywhere else. God works in miraculous ways because she was a calm, quiet child. People would walk into my office, and she’d be sitting there. But then again, I was lucky to do that because I almost started at the top of my career. Most women can’t do it.

I raised my daughter to be independent and self-sufficient so she could care for herself. On this journey, I met many female friends who went out of their way to support me. We call ourselves The Sisterhood. They showed up for me. We’ve done this for each other in the workspace and the world.

Is there a woman you greatly admire who you would like to meet?

Oh, gosh, I hate that question because I admire many women for different reasons. On the top of my mind, I listened to the first female CEO of PepsiCo, Indra Nooyi, tell her story of how you struggle as a high-achieving woman who also wants to have a family. How she could not see her children, how her secretary knew her children more than she did and the decisions you have to make at that level. My job is very demanding, but this woman is operating at another level, running a Fortune 500 company, a global conglomerate, and facing immense challenges.

How tough is it to be a woman at that level?

So, this lady and I were the best candidates from law school, well sought after. During recruitment by a major firm, our competitors were three young men. The recruiter turned to us and said, “The problem we have is you two will probably get married and have children. This job is very rewarding, but it requires all your attention.” Of course, by that point, I had decided I didn’t want to practice law.

My friend stayed on. She became very successful at a young age, but it came at a price, working 16 hours a day. She later got a nervous breakdown and quit at the top of her career.

There are hard choices to make, especially for young women. You’re a young woman at the peak of your life, but you don’t have a family, which is not considered natural. I tell women we must be realistic about this because that’s how we support each other.

Society expects my father to go and get food but doesn’t place the same expectation on my mother. Whatever else we become in life, we are providers and nurturers, which is very hard. And that is what breaks us in the workplace; it’s not the work because we can handle the intellectual demands. It’s the constant fight of my family, child, and time. To succeed as a woman at this level, you need a support system. Your spouse, family, and friends must be your number-one supporters, otherwise, it will not work.

Is it really lonely at the top?

I don’t think I’m at the top, but where I am now, it is still lonely because you have to make many decisions, and a mistake can be catastrophic. It could impact a whole country or a whole set of negotiations. It’s a lot of pressure to make sure you’re doing the right thing. In my position, there are probably three or four people I can talk to who would understand exactly what I’m talking about.

How do you protect and take care of your brain?

That’s very exhausting. These days, I tell people the best moments are when I can sit alone at home doing nothing. I also do a lot of reading because of the nature of our work. I have sat in many places where I’m the only woman or the only black person. And all those dynamics can affect your leadership. Luckily, my sisterhood helps because they are all professional working women.

I’ve always believed in the power of knowledge and education. I belong to a larger diaspora network of black women who support each other. The position comes with many other things: bigotry, sexism, racism, and people can be unkind, and you must have self-mastery. You need a strong sense of self-awareness and a support system on the days when people are openly racist or bigoted, and it breaks you down.

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Nancy Booker: From media personality to helm of academics

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Nancy Booker: From media personality to helm of academics


Professor Nancy Booker, Dean of the Graduate School of Media and Communication at the Aga Khan University. PHOTO | POOL

Prof Nancy Booker, Dean of the Graduate School of Media and Communication at the Aga Khan University, grew up around intelligentsia. Her grandfather was a professor at the University of Nairobi. There were scores of uncles and aunts in academia, including her mother.

“I saw how hard my mother worked,” she says. “Coming back home in the evening to continue doing house chores on top of preparing for the next day’s class, and I thought, no way that is going to be my life.” She wanted something glamorous, so she went into the media and her career, which has spanned over two decades, eventually brought her to a classroom and largely, to what her mother did.

Prof Booker is many things, she’s an administrator, a leader and a media practitioner, who has taught at Daystar University and ABC University in Liberia where she set up the Media and Communication Department in post-war Liberia.

She also serves as one of the seven members of the Media Complaints Commission and is a juror for the Kenyan Annual Journalism Excellence Awards. Many balls in the air, but at the core, she is her mother, a teacher.

Did you ever imagine you’d be a professor?

(Chuckles) Not really. One of my grandfathers was a professor, and many others in the family. I had a lot of admiration for him and I just used to find him fascinating because he had all these books and would spend a lot of his time reading. I found him extremely brilliant and how he handled certain aspects of his life; and how he kept time and the routine of his life. He was very British, in many ways.

My mother was a teacher—God rest her soul—and I would look at how much time she would spend reading and preparing for classes. I just thought there were more interesting things in life. My father always wanted me to be a lawyer. What did my mother want me to be? I don’t know, I think she just wanted me to pursue my dream, whatever direction that took me. One thing I knew for sure was that they did not want me to be in the media.

I remember my father’s comment when he finally realised that I was studying communication and media— that you don’t need to go to university to teach anybody how to speak and he didn’t think that’s where he should put his money. When I went on radio for the first time after my undergrad my dad told all his friends to tune in. I think he enjoyed hearing his name—Booker—as I signed off.

So if nothing else, I think that made him change his mind. But I always had such an interest in media and communications. I loved movies, I loved cartoons. For my master’s, I studied cartoons and just how children interact with cartoons.

What would your grandfather be displeased about you if he came back today?

(Chuckles) I think I would rather talk about what my parents would be displeased about if they came today. (Chuckle) I think both my parents would be very proud of me. My mom would call me Prof even before I became one, so she would be very happy that I am one today. She died after I had my PhD, but I had not become an associate. [Pause] What would they be unhappy about? I think…(Pause) Biko, I don’t know whether I should say this.

Say it.

Who’s going to read this? This is…(Hesitant)

Nobody really, nobody reads this column—maybe a handful of people.

(Laughs) I think my mom desired that she would have lots of grandchildren from me and I don’t have children. I think she would be disappointed by that. However, I don’t think my dad would have cared anyway. Not having children is something I think my mum would even share with her prayer group from time to time. (Chuckles) It almost became an issue where my mum thought she would help in finding me a suitor. I found that quite hilarious.

Would you say academia has taken you away from, you know, giving your mum a lot of grandchildren?

Eh… No. It’s just about what choices one makes in life. It’s a personal choice.

From where do you think you get your greatest affirmation?

From my parents. My dad was way ahead of time because he allowed us to pursue our dreams and I remember him telling me you can be anything you want to be. So it sounded like the power was in your hands. That shaped us. The other place I get a lot of affirmation is in class when students are proud of the contribution that I have made in their lives by creating an enabling environment for them to learn and thrive.

What’s been your most challenging period in life?

Oh, how many do you want?

Give me three.

(Laughter) Losing my mum in 2020 at the height of Covid is one of them. Thanks to the sort of preparation that my mum did. She knew it was going to happen. And I guess part of the gift of being around family when someone is terminally ill, is that then you get prepared but it’s still very difficult. It still is because we shared a lot, she gave me a lot of direction. She was my anchor. I have found many other anchors in life since. I have academic and social anchors.

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Under what circumstances, Prof, do you find yourself to be doubtful of yourself?

In the position that I’m in, I make decisions on a day-to-day basis. I’m making strategic decisions for the school, and these decisions have an impact on my team and students and in the future. That’s a whole dance. But I think one of the greatest lessons I’ve learnt is if you’re not going to make a decision, you’ll fail. But in the process of decision-making, there will be instances where you doubt yourself and go back and ask, was that the right decision?

Could I have made a different decision? And in that process, there’ll be people that you disappoint. But if they can see where you’re going and they can trust the product, then that’s fine. And that’s the joy of leadership.

How is your risk appetite, what’s the biggest risk you have ever taken?

Oh, I’m a risk taker, Biko. I’ve taken risks my whole life. (Pause) Biko, you’re asking me tough questions. (Long pause) Why am I overthinking this? I think one of the biggest risks was stepping into the position of dean at the Graduate School of Communications.

I questioned my readiness. I wondered what I would have to sacrifice. If I will have any time? Will I have any work-life balance? We can talk about work-life balance at a different interview. (Laughs) Never mind that I had been prepared for this because before I was the associate dean, and then I was interim for 18 months. But it’s still a risk because then you realise, it’s not, you’re not interim anymore.

Where does the fascination with cartoons come from?

Sometimes you watch cartoons that target children but it is adult content really, you know. And so you ask yourself, you know, who’s the primary audience for this? But also just the fact that there are a lot of lessons to be learned.

Cartoons are a major socialising agent and children spend a lot of time watching. They are those who even use them as babysitters; you put your child in front of a screen and you’ll go away to do other things. And we don’t pay attention to what that content is, what’s the message, and what children are learning. And so that’s my mission.

In my master’s thesis, I looked at how children interact with cartoons and how that then influences their behaviour. That was a while back. I’m not going to say when because then you’ll figure out how old I am and I don’t want you to know that. (Chuckles)

Yeah, I don’t mean to sound philosophical, but I’m just wondering if you find knowledge to be burdensome.

It’s a thrill because you’re always in the process of discovery and in that process, there will be things that you unlearn, things that you discover and things that also make you uncomfortable.

What have you discovered about yourself lately that surprised you?

I’m a lot calmer than I thought I was. I’ve just learned to prioritise what I worry about or think about, and just to be… appreciative of what I can change or do. And that I don’t have to do it all. I’ve learned to be grateful for everything, for what I have and also be very aware that you could have less.

Talking of that Aristotle quote—of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. What’s been the most bizarre thought you’ve entertained?

Biko, this is going on record of course I’m not going to tell you! (laughter) But let’s go back to that question about my favourite cartoons. It’s always been Scooby-Doo, which is one of the animated cartoons that I studied for my master’s. It’s still one of my favourite cartoons because I love dogs. I have five dogs, four of which I inherited from my mother.

How does a professor unwind? Do you bury yourself under books?

Professors have lives, Biko. We have very normal lives. I take road trips. I love them because this country is beautiful.

Every time I go on a road trip with more than one person, I’ll just stop and admire what’s out there and people say okay, there goes that professorial eye! (Laughs) I like listening to the birds and enjoying the greenery out there. I also love watching movies when time allows. And I’ll spend lots of time with my nieces and nephews.

Thanks, Prof. And Merry Christmas!

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Peter Njenga: What I learnt from my polygamous family

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Peter Njenga: What I learnt from my polygamous family


KenGen PLC Managing Director and CEO Eng. Peter Njenga poses during an interview on November 1, 2023, at Capital Club in Nairobi. PHOTO | BILLY OGADA | NMG

When it started getting late, the kind of lateness that could potentially get you in trouble with the wife, Peter Njenga walked out of the bar. Home was still not any further than dawn. At the parking lot, he was befuddled to find his car missing. “The police towed it away,” shouted a security guy from the depths of his dark dank booth. At the police station, the police demanded that he open his boot because someone at the bar had reported “blood all over” his boot. When he popped it open, lying there was a goat that he had earlier bought from the butchery to take home and that he had all forgotten about. The cops stood there laughing at the goat. This was over 20 years ago when he was a wee lad and had not invited Jesus Christ into his life.

Now Engineer Njenga is the new chief executive officer of KenGen, having ascended to this position after 31 years in the energy sector. His previous post was General Manager for Infrastructure Development at Kenya Power. He is coming in at a time when the company seeks to increase baseload electricity generation in the next 10 years.

A sharp dresser and an avid storyteller, Engineer Njenga seems to start all his statements with, “Let me tell you a story…”

You grew up in a massive family with dozens of siblings…

Yes. My father had three wives. First wife had nine children, the second had 11 and I’m the firstborn of the third wife, my mom, and we were 12. Then there was a son who joined the family. So 33 children. I was the 12th child.

Did you feel lost in that sea of siblings?

Let me tell you, the first wife was living in a separate region, but the other two were living together in the same house. And interestingly, it didn’t matter where we took our meals. As long as there’s a meal in whoever’s house it is or kitchen, you went and ate. We were all treated as children belonging to one mother.

So I grew up not distinguishing the difference. But of course much later, as you grow older you start seeing the tensions and intrigues of polygamous families. At some point, I told myself, I don’t think this is a good life because as the man grows older he is not able to cope with the fast life. So you will always tend to lean on one side because you can’t cope and that brings a lot of tension.

Do you think he was happier to have three wives?

I think because of the traditions it was okay. I think he managed. He was fairly well-to-do. He was a salesman with Leyland. Most of the time he was out in the field and we never saw much of him. But whenever he came home and because I think he knew boys are cheeky he would call us and remove his belt and start whipping us while saying, ‘I know you boys must have done something wrong while I was away!’ [Laughter]. We grew up as a very united family. Even today if you meet my stepbrothers when we are together you wouldn’t know who belongs to which family.

So what do you think your dad did to make that happen? This unity.

I think number one, he provided. We were born in Kiambu, a place called Redhill before we migrated to Nakuru County in 1973. I was born in 1967. He bought this Mzungu settler’s land in Nakuru, a huge chunk of land, almost 800 acres. So he became a farmer, a large-scale farmer, growing wheat, and barley. He called himself Lord Mao (Chuckle). He was an organised man. I admire him even today and I have very sweet memories of him.

Did he die a happy man?

Oh yes. (Laughter) He enjoyed his life. At some point, as he grew old, he leaned towards spirituality. He became sick and because my wife is a doctor we had the privilege of taking care of him when he came to live with us. We would take him to the hospital. One day we went to see a doctor and the doctor- pointing at me – asked him, do you know this man? He looked at me and said, “Yes, I remember him. We used to work with him.” (Laughter).

How did that make you feel?

It made me feel so sad. My father is not able to recognise me anymore. He died in 2001 at 78, so he had lived his life. When I was told that he had died I shed tears. I remember driving to the hospital and crying so much I couldn’t see the road, so I had to pull over on the side and cry. It was a very tough time.

How did growing up in a polygamous setup, with a man like that, inform the man you eventually became?

One of the things that I borrowed from my father is that he was a stickler for time. You noted I came here on time. That’s my dad. He was also a very clean guy.

Like you, I’ve noticed that you are impeccable.

Oh no, I’m no match for my father. The only person who might come close to my dad’s cleanliness is my brother, David. He’s a replica of the man. David washes his hands for so long everybody gets concerned. (Laughter). My dad always only wore very white shirts and nice suits. He had many pairs of shoes. I remember all of them because I used to be the one to polish them every Saturday. Even to date, I shine my shoes because nobody can shine my shoes like I do.

It must be challenging for your wife to live with a man like you.

(Laughs) Let me tell you another story. When you get married you imagine that your partner will do the things you do. We used to quarrel a lot with my wife at the start. I’d ask, “Why don’t you shut the door?’ I used to wonder why she couldn’t do things the way I do them. But after some time I realised that she is a different person. Her background is different. And when she told me that growing up they lived in a single room, they never had a door to lock because there was only one door to go out, so it seemed natural for her to walk out of rooms and not close the door or switch off a light!

Some of our children – we have three – have taken after her so they don’t lock doors. (Laughs) But I decided I would not bother anybody. I just go and lock the doors and turn off the lights. And I’m a happy man.

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KenGen PLC Managing Director and CEO Engineer Peter Njenga poses during an interview on November 1, 2023, at Capital Club in Nairobi. PHOTO | BILLY OGADA | NMG

How has been your experience climbing up the corporate ladder?

I graduated from the University of Nairobi in 1990, electrical engineering….but the other part of my story is maybe because of my father’s influence, I married early. My father married his first wife when he was 24. I married when I was 23, so I beat him. (Chuckle) So you can imagine that I had some struggles initially. I have a wife and we have a daughter because my wife fell pregnant when we were in university and that didn’t faze me one bit because she was the right woman for me.

Remember I grew up in a home that had many children. My wife was still in medical school. I lived in a single room in Ngara where she would come over the weekend. The room was divided by a curtain. I got a job at Kenya Polytechnic University as an assistant lecturer before getting into Kenya Power as a graduate engineer and within a very short period, I had risen to become a senior engineer.

There was one year I was promoted twice. I worked in Nyeri for a while, I recall. This was in 2004 when I was just putting up a house in Ngong. I left my family behind and would shuttle between Nyeri and Ngong in Nairobi every Friday and Monday morning. It wasn’t easy, of course, because we were close as a family and time apart was not easy.

Let me tell you a story. I’d leave Monday at 4am for Nyeri. The children were away in boarding school, so it was just me and my wife. Sometimes I’d take my tea before leaving and there are days I’d find the cup I used on Monday at the same spot when I went back on Friday. One time I asked my wife, what is the problem? Why do I find this cup every Friday when I come back? She told me, ‘Because I’m lonely in this house when you are gone, seeing that cup there makes me feel you are around.’

So touching! Did that make you sad?

It made me sad, very sad. That’s also why every Friday I’d dutifully fuel my car over lunch hour and just wait for 4.30pm sharp to start moving so that I’d get home in time to be with her. It also gives you a perspective of life and people, and how things aren’t what they seem because you see them like that.

Would you consider marrying many wives like your dad?

Do you know what happens when you marry many wives? You can’t treat them the same all the time. Your allegiance keeps shifting, And guess who suffers when she is a villain? Her children. I saw this and I promised myself I would have one wife and one family so that I provide for them and the environment would be the same continuously.

What are the pressures of being the man at the top, being a CEO?

The pressure of carrying the organisation on your shoulders. Anything goes wrong and fingers point at you. You have no shelter. Remember the famous blackout at the airport? I was maybe a week old in this role when it happened and some people were blaming me for it. ‘He must be the one who has caused this problem,’ they said. These are things I have to accept. What’s important is to try and make everybody work as a team, for each one of us to start seeing ourselves as a part of that leadership.

How different did your life change when you accepted Jesus Christ in your life many years ago?

When I got saved, people were asking me, we thought you were saved. (Laughter) My nature has always been non-antagonising. We always went to church as a family, every Sunday without fail. Devout Christians. Before salvation, I’d enjoy life on the other side. And I did enjoy it without regrets. I balanced my family and that life because I never wanted anything to come between me and my wife. But of course, my wife used to be worried that sometimes I would go out and not come back home at a good hour. And she would wonder whether I’m committed.

Let me tell you a story. I remember one time I went to a joint on Thika Road. I had gone to buy meat for my family in some place, Kiamaiko. I think we were having some party at home or something the next day. On the way back, I decided, ah, let me go and have two before I head home. So I went into the pub, got my drinks, enjoyed myself, and at some point when I was leaving, I went and found my car was not there. I was told by the guards that the police towed it. So I went to the police station. These guys told me, open your boot. I opened the boot and they found I had a goat. Do you know why they towed my car? When the guy was putting the goat there was blood on the boot and someone thought there was something fishy in my car.

So you can imagine going back home very late and telling your wife these stories, she can’t believe you! (Laughs). So in the early 2000s, I really reviewed my life and I decided that even though I tend to enjoy life on the other side, I think it is safe to be on the side of God. Because when such things come and you call upon the name of the Lord, I always say, he’s a strong tower. The name of the Lord is a strong tower. When you run to it, you’re safe. Proverbs 18:10.

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